Category Archives: Men

Negotiations & Marriage


Single Women are beginning to believe that they will never get married. Black women believe there are no good Black men available, heterosexual, and have a job. Is this true? Are women having to start negotating their standards just to get a man?

Check out this video…the lady is telling the man what she is looking for & need in a man. He says he is all that but then she comes up with something else that she needs.

Are women being unreasonable with their requests for a spouse? You tell me…..



Stay out of the media!


Enough is enough with the Eddie Long saga. Now one of his accusers, Jamal Parris, has spoken publicly about the abuse. He spoke with a local Atlanta television station, Fox 5, without the consent from his attorney BJ Bernstein.

Parris states that he loves his “Daddy” and always will. Bishop Long was a father to him and the other accusers & they looked at him as their father, but his actions toward them have scared them for life.

Ok, I am all for the truth being told & Long, if he is guilty, be held accountable. But young man STOP the interviews. You have filed your lawsuit. Your attorney is now your mouthpiece. Just like Bishop Long have said what he is going to say this past Sunday during his church service, there is no need for him to speak publicly about this case anymore.

Running your mouth, can and will cause a delay in finding an impartial jury to try your case. We all know this case is getting national attention. If you want closure & Bishop Long exposed, sit your azz down & talk through your attorney.

The effects of abuse will not go away quickly but standing in front of a camera & microphone does not help your case….Lets let the justice system do its job.

Here is Parris interview…


Bishop Long Breaks his Silence


Everyone that has been paying attention to the news were waiting on Bishop Eddie Long, pastor of New Birth Missionary Baptist Church in Atlanta, to hold his press conference on yesterday but it was cancelled due to a third allegation being levied against him. However, today he held a phone conference with a few of his parishioners & WGCL, an Atlanta news station was on the call as well.

The call was just a way for Bishop Long to reassure his followers that he is just as shocked as they are about the allegations that he had sexual relations with 3 former teenage boys that attended his mega church.

Long said he was in the middle of a battle.

“We will arise through this situation, and go forward, and we are moving forward,” Long said.

WGCL reports that Long said several times that he didn’t know who was on the call, so he had to be careful what he said because the case is in litigation. He also said he would not take any questions. With that his statements were methodical & well thought out to keep from saying something that could be used against him later in court.

Long ask the listeners to pray for his wife, his children, the church, and the accusers. He labeled himself [Long] a person that “always operate in the spirit of love.” 

This story is long from over & will get uglier before its all over and done with…Just remember there is always two sides to every story & we need to pray for all involved especially the silent victims: Bishop Long wife & children and the accusers family.



Razor Bumps

African American men & women can experience razor bumps after shaving, waxing, or tweezing. Razor bumps, technical name is Pseudofolliculitis barbae, is a common condition experienced by people with coarse or curly hair. Razor bumps are caused by the hair curving back into the skin and becoming ingrown. Your skin is designed to allow hair to grow out of it, but never made plans for that same hair to come back into the skin!

To curve the outbreak of razor bumps do the following:
•Before shaving: Wet your hair with warm water and apply a good shaving cream prior to shaving. Let the shaving cream sit for about a minute and a half as it will reduce friction and prevent irritation. This will soften the hair making it easier to cut evenly.

•While shaving: Use a single-blade or an electric shaver instead of a double or triple blade razor. Double and triple blades tend to shave too close to the skin, thus increasing the probably of razor bumps resulting.

•Routinely replace your razor blade to prevent infection and to allow the blade to remain sharp.

•Shave in the direction of hair growth.

•Do not pull or stretch your skin while shaving; let is stay natural to prevent the likelihood of hair curving back into the skin

For those times when you would like to be pampered, visit Salon de Sol (915 E. McLemore AVe. Ste. 103, Memphis, TN) the barbers & stylists would be more than happy to give you that much needed professional shave……