Category Archives: Relationships

Agree to Disagree


Agree to disagree is easier said than done. Have you tried to let things go but someone just keep going at it?

Yeah, it’s not as easy to just let it go if the other person keeps up the foolishness. So what do you do?

I say stay firm to letting it go. It takes two to tango so don’t continue that dance with them.

Set the example you would like for others to see and do! Yeah yeah it’s not easy…

I’m so reminded of the bus driver that fought the passenger on his bus. Did he really try to agree to disagree? Or did he start dancing with her to her foolish beat?

Don’t allow people to take you out of your comfort zone. Stay true to self and everything else will fall into place.

Agree to disagree!


Deep Love


Why is it so hard not to love deeply?

You know when you love someone with every fiber in your body.

When we love someone it hurts when we disappoint them. We want to take back everything we said or did to upset them.

However, when you do love that strongly you must not lose yourself in that person. Stay true to who you are. Remember you need emotional, physical, & mental support as well.

I have no problem with people loving deeply; I have a problem when the person giving the love is not getting the same back.

Life as we know it is already dysfunctional don’t willingly be in a dysfunctional relationship.

As deep as you live that person you should live yourself MORE!

Love & Forgiveness Blog Tour


Let me tell you guys something, God gives you what you need right on time. The latest book I am reading is Love & Forgiveness. We all think we [know] how to LOVE but when  it comes to FORGIVENESS sometimes [we] (meaning me) fall short.  Well this book will guide you with Bible principles on Love & Forgiveness.

Take a sneak peek into the book & learn a little bit about the author then go out or order online this wonderful book.

About the Book

Love & Forgiveness is the first of a six volume pocket book series called the MeatyWord Series. Each volume of the series will focus on a very essential Biblical principle and its application in our daily lives.

In Love & Forgiveness, love and forgiveness are defined Biblically and then contrasted with worldly use. The book explores what love is, what love does, how love feels, the importance of repentance and forgiveness and the benefits of both.

The Process of Asking for, Receiving and Giving Love & Forgiveness is essentially a Bible study of the principle concepts of love, repentance, and forgiveness. The book further explores the importance of communication and the oneness of giving and receiving. The Process of Asking for, Receiving and Giving Love & Forgiveness is the first book of a Bible study series written by LaShawnda Jones, titled The MeatyWord. Stays tuned for more from this promising young author, but for now, learn more about her current work, The Process of Asking for, Receiving and Giving Love & Forgiveness.

Q&A on The Process of Asking for, Receiving and Giving Love & Forgiveness By LaShawnda Jones

Q. What led you to create this book now?

I’ve been studying the Bible for some time now. And I’ve been sharing my writings about my spiritual evolution for nearly four years. In my studies and my compositions, I’ve come to recognize that there is a lot of misinformation being spread about the gospel. Misinformation coupled with the waywardness of popular culture keeps us all headed in the wrong direction. The desire to write about foundational Biblical principles came into my heart and I decided to follow the prompting. I rely heavily on the Word of God and illustrate sparingly from my own experiences to paint as much of 365° picture of what God is expressing in His Word.

Q. Who should read this book and why?

My introduction in Love & Forgiveness is all about this question. I asked myself, “Am I writing to the people who love, or to the people who are loved? Am I addressing the repentant at heart, or the unrepentant? Should I focus on those who have forgiven, or those who have received forgiveness? Is this work ultimately for people who believe in God, His Son Jesus and His Holy Spirit, or for those who don’t believe at all?

The answer that came back to me was, “Everyone represents, has represented or will represent each of those characteristics at any given point of their life. This book is a tool to be used in working out love, repentance and forgiveness issues in human relationships through the examples God has provided. Those relationships could be with parents, siblings, spouses, other family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors or community members. There are many relationships during the course of our lives through which we have to navigate our way. Some of those relationships fail and die because one or both parties involved are unfamiliar with the process of love, repentance and forgiveness. This book is for them.

Q. What impact will this book have on the community?

I think this book will bring people closer to their true selves. It will encourage a personal honesty and transparency. When we are able to be more truly ourselves, we are able to be more present in our relationships. Better relationships improve our quality of life.

Q: What issues in today’s society have you addressed in the book?

Popular culture is covered briefly, primarily from the view of media and celebrity. In particular, there is a focus on idolization of people and things and how such behavior inadvertently condemns a person with the sin of idolatry.

Q: Who did you write this book for? Why?

At a very basic level, I wrote this book for myself…and for my husband (when he comes) and our relationship (when we begin building). I wrote this book to improve my life and my understanding of what’s required of me and my partner so we can successfully build, maintain and sustain a thriving and loving marital relationship.

Q: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp and share?

We each have a responsibility to communicate where we are in our relationships. We are responsible for speaking of our hurts and our joys; of encouraging and correcting how we are being treated by others. We are as much responsible for showing love, repenting and offering forgiveness as we are for receiving love, accepting repentance and accepting and receiving forgiveness. The reciprocation creates a unity of oneness that’s difficult to separate within a relationship.

Q: What was the most powerful chapter or scene in the book for you?

Repentance. The section on repentance is the most powerful for me. I didn’t quite understand it or the importance and necessity for repentance until I studied to write about it. As a matter of fact, repentance was not part of my outline. I had only planned on writing about love and forgiveness (and how to communicate them), but the book didn’t come together until I added repentance.

Q: If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your latest book?

It’s not mine to change. I realized early on that I am a vessel and I am quite awed by the message that has been delivered through me.

Q: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?

Write. Get critiques. Re-write. Improve. Follow your dreams. If your dreams don’t fall in line, create opportunities to bring them to fruition.

Q:  Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases. Also share with us your online contact information.

The Process of Asking for, Receiving and Giving Love & Forgiveness ($12.00USD) will be available on and in early February 2011. My autobiographical devotional, My God and Me: Listening, Learning and Growing on My Journey ($15.00USD) is currently available on and I maintain a blog at Active subscribers are welcome! I am actively seeking events to participate in and invitations to read and discuss my book at your special function. I also facilitate self-esteem workshops, incorporating anecdotes from My God and Me.

About the Author

LaShawnda Jones is currently living and thriving in New York City. Her prior work includes an autobiographical devotional, My God and Me: Listening, Learning and Growing on My Journey and an autobiographical volume of poetry, Cliches: A Life in Verse. LaShawnda’s writing and publishing work ranges from poetry, to blogging, to designing an annual full-figured fashion calendar. She was a contributor to a daily political blog during the last presidential election and an anthology of letters addressed to First Lady Michelle Obama.

LaShawnda’s current work is a series of short books, focusing on foundational Biblical principles. The series is called the MeatyWord series. The first volume, The Process of Asking for, Receiving and Giving Love & Forgiveness, will be available January 2011.

LaShawnda’s life is an illustration of transition – constant movement and growth from one point to another. She is ecstatic about moving forward on her journey with the LORD. She continues to grow stronger in her faith, wiser in her knowledge and more loving to people as she seeks to mirror exactly the Christ in her.

To keep up with LaShawnda’s journey, subscribe to her blog at

LaShawnda Jones’ Podcasts

About the Book      Click here to listen…

For Readers             Click here to listen…

Excerpt                      Click here to listen…


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Lift Editing with Tiya Cunningham-Sumter


I had the great pleasure of talking with relationship coach, Tiya Cunningham-Sumter. The conversation was great.

Relationships are hard work. You must work continuously in your relationship to ensure a fulfilling relationship. Tiya shared some helpful tips on how to diffuse a heated discussion, how to recognize the level of listening you are engaging, and the importance of a relationship mission plan.

Listen to the interview….I am sure you will get something from the interview you can use in your relationship.

Stress in Relationships Interview with Tiya Sumter on Blog Talk Radio

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Tiya SumterTiya Cunningham-Sumter, a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, received her certification in 2006 from iPEC Coaching Institute, a premier life coach training organization. Sumter immediately founded Life Editing and has coached countless individuals, couples and families on achieving their personal, professional, and relationship goals. The Life Editing concept is about rewriting your life, to reflect your dreams. Sumter, a wife and mother created The Black Wives’ Club blog and is a weekly contributor for She was featured in Ebony Magazine (2008 & 2010) and has been happily married for 12 years.


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