Category Archives: Women

Negotiations & Marriage

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Single Women are beginning to believe that they will never get married. Black women believe there are no good Black men available, heterosexual, and have a job. Is this true? Are women having to start negotating their standards just to get a man?

Check out this video…the lady is telling the man what she is looking for & need in a man. He says he is all that but then she comes up with something else that she needs.

Are women being unreasonable with their requests for a spouse? You tell me…..

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How N Secure are you?

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N Secure, www.n-securethemovie.com, is a movie that was born & filmed in Memphis, TN. The co-writers, Julius Lewis & Christie Taylor, are from Memphis. The movie follows the lives of urban professionals that have the money, power, status quo to do what they want to do; however, there is a dark side.

As we know October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Domestic Violence don’t discriminate against race, color, national origin, religion, sex, age, disability or financial status. The Domestic Violence hotline website defines DV as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.

The main character in N Secure was an abuser. His demeaning behavior toward his girlfriend was a classic case for Domestic Violence. He didn’t allow her to have friends, talk to her family, & she had to answer his calls immediately or she would be in “trouble”.

The movie addressed a taboo subject in the African American community and did a damn good job on how jealousy, controlling, & abuse can destroy lives.

This movie is a must see because we all can relate to something that is going on in the movie. Do you stay with a man for the stability he offers but you are unhappy and he is abusing you?

You will have to watch the movie to find out how the story plays out…but be warned it does not end the way you think it will…..

Abuse is never acceptable…if you are in an abusive relationship take the steps to get out…Visit www.hotline.org to get additional information to help you escape your abusive relationship.

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Razor Bumps

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African American men & women can experience razor bumps after shaving, waxing, or tweezing. Razor bumps, technical name is Pseudofolliculitis barbae, is a common condition experienced by people with coarse or curly hair. Razor bumps are caused by the hair curving back into the skin and becoming ingrown. Your skin is designed to allow hair to grow out of it, but never made plans for that same hair to come back into the skin!

To curve the outbreak of razor bumps do the following:
•Before shaving: Wet your hair with warm water and apply a good shaving cream prior to shaving. Let the shaving cream sit for about a minute and a half as it will reduce friction and prevent irritation. This will soften the hair making it easier to cut evenly.

•While shaving: Use a single-blade or an electric shaver instead of a double or triple blade razor. Double and triple blades tend to shave too close to the skin, thus increasing the probably of razor bumps resulting.

•Routinely replace your razor blade to prevent infection and to allow the blade to remain sharp.

•Shave in the direction of hair growth.

•Do not pull or stretch your skin while shaving; let is stay natural to prevent the likelihood of hair curving back into the skin

For those times when you would like to be pampered, visit Salon de Sol (915 E. McLemore AVe. Ste. 103, Memphis, TN) the barbers & stylists would be more than happy to give you that much needed professional shave……